You have a big dream in your heart to get your message out to many people, and are terrified of the exposure, so you keep yourself a well-hidden secret, all the while knowing you could do more. This is a far too common situation for sensitive and spiritually-minded people, for many reasons, not the least of which is the fact that the fear of being exposed and even burned (literally and figuratively) lives in our DNA as powerful women!
The problem with this is that the world needs you. The world needs what you have to offer, whether it is your nutritional counseling, your polarity therapy, your ability to create order out of chaos—whatever your particular gift is. Somebody will be helped by you and you alone.
It is really important to get this in your bones: NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE YOU OR WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY OR OFFER. This is particularly true if you begin to become more visible and successful. You will be projected upon. People will accuse you of being ambitious or greedy or any one of a number of things. They will throw their unfinished business onto you, and your job is not to let it stick!!!!
As women, this can be a very huge challenge, and facing into this fear of rejection is one of the most important and empowering things you can do if you want to create a prosperous business doing what you are meant to do.
Let’s face it. Feeling connected is THE most important thing in the lives of most women. If someone doesn’t like what we have said or a product or service, it can momentarily feel to the primitive part of our brain that our survival is threatened. It is not, but here are some ways you can remain connected to yourself and your truth, no matter what anyone says or does:
1. Get in the habit of using the following as a mantra: “What you think of me is none of my business!”
The spiritual teacher, Byron Katie says that there are two kinds of business: your business and God’s business. Anything else is not yours! In other words, sometimes you just need to have healthy boundaries and put up a fence!
2. Every day, spend a few minutes getting clear about your main motivation for your day, and be sure that it is based on LOVE. This is different from setting goals, which is important. This is about the true purpose of your day. You could say it is about setting your INTENTION for the day.
For example, if your goal is to engage in profit-making activities, what is motivating you to do that? Is it to grow your business and forward your message (service) or is it because you are feeling afraid of not having enough (fear). Be honest. If you can see that you are coming from fear, there are many ways to press the reset button on your day, to shift from fear to love.
If you do this, and you are rejected or in some way find yourself on the receiving end of someone’s wrath, you can check with yourself to examine your true motivation, and find that the momentary “ouch” disappears quickly.
3. Use a power tool for clearing during the day. What I mean by power tool is something like EFT (emotional freedom technique), ho’oponopono (an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness) or simply prayer—something that keeps you clear of all the countless energies that come at you during your day. This way you will keep your energy grounded and positive so that the slings and arrows of life will not penetrate too deeply.
Being a grownup is hard enough. Being in business for yourself requires another level of maturity and response—ability that is worth the effort. After all, if God is your boss, your want to do the best job you can!!!