From the Mind of Aberdeen
It was a lovely day, rain included. My morning run was a bit wet and humid, but I pushed my way through it. I met a friend for coffee and had a wonderful telephone conversation early this afternoon! All-in-all it was a great day. In preparation for a Saturday hike, I traveled to the Blue Hills Reservation Headquarters to pick up a map and slightly familiarize myself with the surrounding area. It is such a beautiful place! I have mountain biked there a few times, but not in recent years. I'm really looking forward to the hike and catching up with my friend.
Challenge of the Day
I have to confess: I have held onto a few things over the years a lot longer than I should have. And ... I might still have a few items that need to be purged (embarrassingly). I had a habit of creating "relationship boxes," which of course obtained mementos that only annoyed me when it was over. Today, I felt a really deep connection with the daily challenge, as if it was designed solely for me, and I decided to rid of my last box. At first, I wasn't sure I was ready to let it go. It had been sitting silently, out of view, at the back of my closet for far too many months, and it was time to say good-bye. It was a very refreshing feeling after I let it go! I look forward to experiencing the new space in my life with it gone. I do have a question for you though - What do you think about holding onto items received as gifts? Such as practical presents, that are still useful? I received my favorite red rainboots from an ex and a few other items, but I personally do not have attachments to them that remind me of past feelings. I wear them as my own. Would you do the same? I did get rid of sentimental presents - such as jewelry and pictures. To each her own, I suppose!
While talking with a friend over coffee this morning, we recalled a topic discussed at a recent networking event -- The way a story is relayed is extremely important in how it will be received. Of course, this sounds like common sense, but the more we talked about it, the more I realized its significance. A person's attitude, tone, body language, enthusiam and facial expressions speak volumes. For example, a simple account could be viewed in a very positive light with a few choice words or it could be heard in a very negative context. Many instances were discussed, and here is one I thought of:
Imagine a husband comes home from work and his wife asks "How was your day?" The husband could respond as follows:
#1- My day was terrible! I had to stay late at the office and meet with a client, who was not accepting normal social cues that it was time to go, continued to talk nonsense and then wasted more of my time!
#2- Honey, my day went a little unexpected. One of my clients forgot about our appointment and called 45 minutes late to say she was on her way. It actually turned out pretty good, because I was able to put some extra time into the big project I've been working on. The meeting went pretty well and I really feel like I made a good impression on my new client - she responded well to my ideas and was really open to sharing all the details of her situation.
As you can tell, both summaries could be describing the same circumstance but would instill very different feelings in the recipient. It seems worthwhile to find the good in a situation and take advantage of highlighting the positive aspects, if possible. Otherwise, a negative explanation could end up with two people in a foul mood! Appreciate the beauty of everyday and put forth your utmost effort to make another person smile. :)
Good-night, my friends, xo,