I am amazed at the number of people who confide in me that their fear of speaking at a lectern or even at the head of a boardroom table is jeopardizing their career advancement. This is so unfortunate because their fear is control of them instead of the other way around.
Everyone is nervous in public speaking – or should be. Personally, I want you nervous because it makes you more alert and more focused. The secret, however, lies in harnessing that nervousness and putting it to good use.
If you believe that you are going to fail, then indeed you will probably not do a good job. But what if you could look at the situation differently? If you know your material by practicing it out loud over and over; and, in the process, record yourself – preferably with a video recorder – so that you can see and hear what is happening, you will learn a lot about your strengths and your weaknesses.
As you diligently practice your material, be sure to:
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I guarantee that if you can accomplish these 3 requirements, you will be successful. Yes, you might make a mistake or two but then so do the professionals. They all do. Broadcasters, public speakers, and even presidential candidates make mistakes. It is not the end of the world. (Lots of mistakes, however, mean that you are not prepared and that should never be.)
If you really look at those 3 components of dynamic speaking, they are the exact same things you do when you have a conversation with one or more people. You make eye contact; you speak with expression; and you interrupt your sentences to supplement your air supply.
Instead of avoiding what frightens you, might I suggest that you look at the idea of public speaking as surprisingly similar to that of having a conversation in your living room or at the office water cooler? Do not allow your fear to hold you back from advancing in your career. All it takes is practice and the belief in yourself.
This article was written by Nancy Daniels. To get more great advice from Women's Toolbox Media Diva Nancy Daniels, visit her website at: http://www.voicedynamic.com
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Thank you for sharing this. Personally my body acts nervous even if I don't think I am. My face flushes (bright red with a burning sensation), and my voice almost disappears with little but air coming out. I'm barely able to move my limbs and I know it's uncomfortable for others to listen/watch me. I've talked to myself about this. I usually know the people I'm speaking to and I know they love me. Once in a while, if it's just a quick announcement, I'm fine, but if it's planned and I'm up in front, the same thing happens. I've been told on a couple of occasions that I did well and they enjoyed what I said. That's encouraging.
I have opportunities to speak coming up and I hope to overcome this fear.
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